Do mistresses have etiquette?

posted October 01, 2015 at 06:00 pm
by Isah V. Red

Former Manila Standard Today editor-in-chief and columnist Julie Yap-Daza wrote Etiquette For Mistresses (published 1993) inspired by stories of women she knew were having affairs with married men, hence they were what we call mistresses. No, the stories weren’t just about casual relationships but more about those that go beyond the physical nature of the engagement.

On screens since last Wednesday is the film adaptation of the book by director Chito Roño. It is an attempt to illustrate the concerns of women in Daza’s book and how they deal with them.

The cast of Etiquette for Mistresses

The film centers on a group of sophisticated, well-mannered women who are in fact mistresses and a younger woman they guide in their world. As they embark on their individual journeys to find love, issues arise because not all mistresses are alike – there are those who uphold tradition and follow the proper etiquette required of them, while others prefer to break the rules.

Georgia, Chloe, Stella, Charley, and Ina seem to have everything but they feel they have nothing knowing their love will never be whole. They are all struggling to break free from the prison they have created around them.

Say the producers, “ Etiquette for Mistresses aims to give the audience a glimpse on the varied stories, different loves, and the pain women go through in illicit relationship.”

Kim Chiu, Claudine Barretto, Iza Calzado

The film assembles Star Cinema’s biggest female stars to play the mistresses – Kris Aquino,, Iza Calzado,  Claudine Barretto, and Kim Chiu.

The film marks the reunion of Aquino and Roño since the film Feng Shui in 2014.

Also, the movie is Barretto’s big comeback to the big screen after a long absence of close to a decade since she starred with Aquino in Sukob (2006).

For Kim Chiu, this is her most challenging role so far. “It’s my first time to play this kind of role,” she announced during the press conference.

Iza Calzado has returned to Star Cinema since starring in Starting Over Again and Maria Leonora Teresa (2014). And this is Cheena Crab‘s first starring role. Roño handpicked her to play one of the five mistresses.

Kris Aquino, Chito Rono

Kriz Gazmen who wrote the screenplay said, “We have to put faces to Tita Julie’s book because that’s the way to make the premise plausible and relatable.” He was also responsible for the screenplays of No Other Woman and One More Try. Recently, he also wrote the photoplays of Breakup Playlist and Ex With Benefits.

The film premiered last Tuesday and unspooled on screens nationwide.

How many mistresses are watching the movie? Who knows? Or they’d rather not take a look at their lives as portrayed in the film. The big question though is, do mistresses really have etiquette to follow? Or, at most, can’t they just be sensible and not make a scene or scandal in public?

Let’s see what Roño thinks.


Vilma Santos-Recto crowned The Queen Of Batangas

Batangas Governor Vilma Santos-Recto was crowned Queen of the Province, Holder of Authority (Baealabi A Gausa Sa Batangas) over the weekend by the Muslim community of Batangas in ceremonies held at the Lima Park Hotel, Lipa City, Batangas.

His Royal Highness Sultan Paramount Faizal Coyogan Benaning Bansao of the Royal Houses of Sultanate of Batangas led the ceremonies.

His Royal Highness Sultan Paramount Faizal Coyogan Benaning Bansao of the Royal Houses of Sultanate of Batangas crowns Batangas Governor Vilma Santos-Recto

More than 3,000 Muslim brothers and leaders from Batangas as well as Brunei and Malaysia were present during the event.

Proud and grateful, Santos-Recto came in a Muslim costume.

“Malaking karangalan para sa akin dahil kasama ko ang mga kapatid na Muslim para matupad ang maayos na programa sa Batangas mula pa nang Mayor ako.

“Salamat kay Sultan Paramount Faizal Coyogan Cocoy Bansao . Mabuhay po kayo! Muli, sa pangalan ng mga Batangeno at sa Mayor ng Lipa. Maraming salamat po sa karangalan!” she said during her acceptance speech.

Santo-Recto also took the chance to share the news about an in-depth interview she did for Yes! magazine’s October issue in which she and sons Luis Manzano and Ryan Christian are on the cover.

Also coming in theaters this October is her new movie for Star Cinema in which she co-stars with Angel Locsin and Xian Lim.


Alden surprises Starstruck ladies

Alden Richards dropped by the Starstruck set and created a commotion among the girl hopefuls.

It was an unannounced visit of the current sensational heartthrob whose pairing with Yaya Dub (Maine Mendoza) has become a global phenomenon.

 Alden Richards surprises Starstruch hopefuls with a visit on the set

The Starstruck girls didn’t know what to do when they saw Richards around the set. True to his charming and humble self, the very popular TV celebrity approached the girls and tried bonding with them.

Richards was one of the Starstruch hopefuls in the show’s previous editions, but he wasn’t lucky enough to even reach the finals. But, look at him now, and see where he is in the firmament of stardom.

Richards with one of the Starstruck girls

Some guys, really have, all the luck and as Lola Nidora says, “Sa tamang panahon!”

The Starstruk girls are as lucky for they were able to be near, physically, with Richards. Not even Maine Mendoza has that chance. Do you think, she’ll be jealous?


Snooky Serna not the cruel in-law at all

Contrary to the character she plays in My Faithful Husband, Snooky Serna is as loving as any one can be. In fact, when she has the time, she drops by Jennylyn Mercado’s Fit and Form for some beauty service. It also affords them time to bond.

Snooky Serna, Jennylyn Mercado

Serna and Mercado play in-laws in the series. The latter is Serna’s daughter-in-law being married to her son Emman (Dennis Trillo). In the series, their characters are always at odds and Emman is caught between her love for his wife (Mercado) and love and respect for his mother (Serna.)

Serna’s portrayal of Cedes, Emman’s mother, is very effective viewers are looking at her with hatred in their eyes for making Mercado’s character suffer in her cruel hands.

But that is drama on television. If you’re good people will either hate or love you.

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